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  • Writer's pictureBy Kathleen Schubert (Actually Autistic, author of U Don’t Seem Autistic)

Understanding Invisible Disabilities: Why "You Don't Look Autistic" Can Be Hurtful


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In today's world, there is a growing awareness of the diverse spectrum of human abilities and disabilities. While physical disabilities are often visible, many individuals live with invisible disabilities, such as autism, that are not immediately apparent to others. Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is a prime example of an invisible disability, and one common misconception is the belief that autistic individuals should "look autistic." In this blog, we will explore the concept of invisible disabilities, shed light on why telling an autistic person, "You don't look autistic," can be hurtful, and provide insights into the importance of understanding and respecting diverse experiences.


The Spectrum of Autism

Autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects individuals differently, leading to a wide spectrum of abilities and characteristics. No two autistic individuals are exactly alike, and this diversity is one of the defining features of autism. The spectrum encompasses individuals with varying strengths, challenges, communication styles, and sensory sensitivities. It's essential to recognise that no universal "look" is associated with autism. Some people may exhibit certain traits that align with common stereotypes, but many others do not.


Invisible Disabilities: What Are They?

An invisible disability is a condition or impairment that is not readily apparent to others. While visible disabilities, like using a wheelchair or having a visible physical condition, are more easily recognised, invisible disabilities often go unnoticed. These conditions can encompass a wide range of disorders, including mental health conditions, chronic pain, and neurological disorders like autism.


Why "You Don't Look Autistic" Can Be Hurtful

  1. Invalidating Experiences: When someone tells an autistic person that they don't "look" autistic, it can invalidate their experiences and challenges. Autism presents differently in every individual, and it's not defined by physical appearance. Suggesting that someone doesn't fit a preconceived notion of what autism should look like dismisses their unique struggles and strengths.

  2. Reinforces Stereotypes: The idea that autistic individuals should "look" a certain way perpetuates harmful stereotypes about autism. These stereotypes can include rigid behaviours, limited interests, and poor social skills. In reality, autistic individuals possess a wide range of talents and qualities that go beyond these stereotypes.

  3. Invisible Struggles: Autism often comes with invisible challenges, such as sensory sensitivities, social anxiety, and difficulty with communication. Just because these struggles aren't visible doesn't mean they aren't real or significant. Dismissing these challenges by saying, "You don't look autistic," ignores the very real difficulties many autistic individuals face daily.

  4. Diversity of the Spectrum: The spectrum of autism is incredibly diverse, encompassing individuals with various abilities and characteristics. Making assumptions about how an autistic person should look based on limited stereotypes ignores this diversity and fails to acknowledge the richness of autistic experiences.

Invisible disabilities, like autism, teach us an essential lesson about human diversity. There is no one-size-fits-all representation of autism, and autistic individuals can look like anyone. The phrase, "You don't look autistic," should serve as a reminder to respect and celebrate the unique experiences and abilities of every person. By understanding the concept of invisible disabilities and dispelling stereotypes, we can create a more inclusive and empathetic society that values the diversity of the human experience.


References:


  1. American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Publishing.

  2. National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke. (2019). Autism Spectrum Disorder Fact Sheet. https://www.ninds.nih.gov/Disorders/Patient-Caregiver-Education/Fact-Sheets/Autism-Spectrum-Disorder-Fact-Sheet

  3. Shidlovska, D., Dahan-Oliel, N., Mazer, B., & Majnemer, A. (2018). "Invisible" Impact of Neurodevelopmental Disorders: A Scoping Review on Occupational Performance and Well-being in Adults. Occupational Therapy International, 2018, 1-18. https://doi.org/10.1155/2018/5062589

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